There’s a running joke, maybe you’ve heard something similar, about who wears the pants when it comes to a marriage. A guy at work wanted to do something, maybe it was a new hobby or spend money on something. He said he needed his wife’s permission. my response? I told him to take his pants back. His response? “I do, when she lets me.” All of my male friends over the years have joked about it.. “She’s got my balls in her purse.” or, “I use them, when she lets me.” Sound familiar? There was a time when a man didn’t need a woman’s permission to do something. Did he ask her for advice? probably. was it her decision to make? Nope. I’m sure I will be lambasted for this stance, but there is truth here and I speak it. In a marriage, it is the husband’s job to steer the ship. Turn the wheel. Drive the car. Pilot the plane. Whatever. I’ve heard all the viewpoints, and at one point, even believed that man and wife were on equal footing. I bought into the whole “woman has the power” thing that most men follow today. Men don’t marry women, they marry MEN. No, I don’t mean homosexuals, although that is true as well. Why do men marry men? because they aren’t men. they are WOMEN. At some point, roles were reversed, and the men that once were have taken a back seat. Ever wonder why there’s a higher rate of men cheating then woman? here’s my theory: because they have become stifled, not by the women they married, but because they ALLOWED their true selves to be hidden.
A little more sexism. In a little book called the bible, God created man. If you’ve read the Bible, you would know that men were created first. Women were created second. if the hierarchy was meant to be the other way, he would have created woman first. So what was a woman created to do? Be a help meet. She was created for man, period. “but that’s just old testament, or men in the Bible were sexist/old fashioned. ” Is the Bible true? Or not? There’s no middle ground here. It is or it isn’t. Again, no middle ground. If it is, then every word is Powered by God.(tm) There IS NO SECOND GUESSING.
Here’s a bit of truth, and it might not sink in for a long time, if ever. Ready? The TRUTH is, your wife WANTS you to be a man. Yes, it’s true. A wife relies on her husbands strength. She relies on him to make decisions, say no, decide, decide, decide. Ever have one of these conversations? “Honey, what do you want for dinner?” “I don’t know, what do you want?” and on and on. many years ago, my wife used to say to me, “be a man, make a decision!” That was back when I was more woman (emotional) than man (rational). That’s the major difference between a man and a woman.
Two things continue to happen in this age. Either the man leaves the woman for someone else, because he’s unhappy, or the woman leaves because she is. The man’s reasons for leaving are not what he thinks. It’s not because he wants something different perse, at least, not another woman. Yes, he might cheat. but the TRUTH is, he isn’t the man at home. With someone else, he might get to be. although most likely, any long term time spent with that other woman will show the same situation, just perhaps the woman is a bit different. Same goes for the woman. She Might leave her husband because he’s wishy washy, or has no drive, or doesn’t clean, or blah blah, but it will be the same with someone else. She just might not recognize it for what it is, because of denial/blindness.
Wearing the pants in the marriage does not consist of abusing your wife, or forcing her to do things she doesn’t want to do. it means taking her hand, and guiding her. mostly gently. Sometimes you need to say no. when you do, STAND YOUR GROUND. This is what a man does best. It’s part of what makes us men.
Only one person can lead, so take her by the hand, take your pants back, put them on, and steer the damn ship.
I spent a lot of time over the holidays with my father in law, doing what men do best. Romp around the out doors, shooting guns at targets. Most people consider guns to be weapons, and of course, the more expensive and pretty the better. And by pretty, I mean make sure it’s super shiny, it only comes out of the case once a week if that, and is part of a collection of 20+ other guns you don’t shoot very often.
Guns are not weapons. They are tools. Dangerous tools, perhaps, but tools none the less. When a man goes to work he often takes tools with him. A knife, a hammer, a saw. Perhaps some pliers. Every tool has a use, every tool made for something specific. From the dawn of time men have made their own tools, using flint, bronze, iron, steel. When a man builds a house, He chooses tools that suite his needs. He might need that hammer and saw, nails, measuring implements. A tool is needed zero percent of the time until it is needed a hundred percent. You won’t need your saw until you have to cut wood. You won’t need the hammer until you have to pound some nails, a shovel until you need to dig dirt.
The point is, You take the tools you need just in case. You won’t need them until you need them. I carry three things on me at all times: A pistol, a multi-tool, and a good knife. Not all of them are needed. sometimes at work I need a pair of pliers or a screwdriver, so I pull out the multi-tool. Sometimes I need to cut something, so out comes the knife. I have yet to need the pistol, but it is there just in case.
A man’s job is to protect his family, his children, his home. A man’s job, his Duty, is to come home safely to his family. The world has always been a dangerous place, regardless of time. Perhaps you might have used a spear, a sword, a bow. Sometime you might need that pistol. If you leave your tools at home, you won’t have them when you need them. I carry a gun because it is my duty to get home safely. You never need a tool until you need it.
Romans 11:4-5 “I have left for myself seven thousand men,
who indeed have not bowed a knee unto Baal.
Thus then, in the present season also, a remnant by way of an election of favor has come into being”.
Jeremiah 6:16 “Thus says Yahweh. Stand you at the ways and see,
and ask for the paths of age past times, where is the good way?,
and walk therein, and you shall find rest to your souls”.
Isaiah 58:12″And they who come of you, shall build the wastes of age past times,
and as for the foundations of generation after generation you shall rear them up.
So shall you be called a Repairer of broken walls, a Restorer of paths leading home”.
The system that is now in place throughout the world is one of facade. it seeks to place a veneer over all of history, to take it and mold it into the image it wants. The TRUTH is, no matter what we do, or how we participate in the system, the One who is really in charge will mold it the way it needs to go no matter what sort of “Help” we try to give, no matter how much we try to change it, whether it’s through voting, or , participating. It isn’t our job to change the way God has ordained the world to go. My father has covered in great detail the way the world works, and he can tell it better than I, here. In every generation, there is a remnant, a shard, if you will, of people that go back to the beginning, and try to learn to live the way their ancestors lived, if not exact, than in spirit. They learn to till the ground to grow, learn how to supply their own meat through rearing animals and/or hunting, learn of medicinal herbs. In short, learning to live as God intended, by the laws of nature.
“…ask for the paths of age past times, where is the good way?” Your ancestors knew the good way. Go back 4, 5, 6 generations or more and you can see. Some were farmers, some laborers, some perhaps were ranchers. Most raised animals, owned guns, could find their way without GPS or compass. Some could make things from metal and wood using tools that we would call archaic, outdated, antique. We buy their tools and hang them on walls as decorations to give our homes a “country” feel, without really knowing what they were used for, or even how to go about using them. most sit and rot and rust, either in fields or “antique” shops, never used again, rusty relics of yet another time that will slip into the mists of the past.
We don’t remember our roots, our history. We have allowed all these things to be forgotten. Hardly anyone knows who their great great grandfather was, or what he did, what he valued. Those who do know, who search, are paving the path, clearing the weeds, and allowing it to be seen a little better by those who come after. These things are important because knowing how our ancestors lived is a lesson for us, a book on how we should pattern our lives. It begins with living in self control.
So we look backward to learn how to live now. We see how they lived, so we can follow in their footsteps, dim and faded though they may be. We follow so that those who come after us, our children, our children’s children, will not stray from the clear path we have left for them.
Edit: I have added my father’s post concerning the path below, so it can be easily found as it pertains to what I have written above.
Romans 11:4-5 “I have left for myself seven thousand men, who indeed have not bowed a knee unto Baal. Thus then, in the present season also, a remnant by way of an election of favor has come into being”.
Rev. 22:14-15 “Happy they who are washing their robes that their right(permission/licence/authority) may be unto the tree of life and by the gates they may enter into the city. OUTSIDE are the dogs and the sorcerers and the unchaste and the murders and the idolators and everyone loving and doing falsehood”.
Every generation has a remnant that is raised up, but is not recognized by it’s contemporaries, only by the remnant members of generations following. The following remnant “stands on the shoulders” of the previous generation. Each generational remnant “goes a little bit farther” in it’s understanding/wisdom than the previous one. This principle is mirrored by the OUTSIDE culture in reverse, as it’s following generations become more evil and degenerate. The OUTSIDE generations denigrate their ancestors, while the remnant honors theirs and pores over their writings in search of nuggets of wisdom. This is shown by some of our “revisionist” historians who dig into writings other historians have suppressed/covered up in their search for the REAL history of this country and what it’s founders believed, which perhaps without realizing it they are ”idol destroyers” in the process, engaged in bringing down historical personages (such as Lincoln) who have been and are still being idolized by OUTSIDERS for years. Also destroying the idols of ideas which have been the foundations of laws and beliefs among the OUTSIDERS for a long time.
Isaiah 58:12″And they who come of you, shall build the wastes of age past times, and as for the foundations of generation after generation you shall rear them up. So shall you be called a Repairer of broken walls, a Restorer of paths leading home”.
The multitudes who are on the OUTSIDE are like the men of Sodom who were struck with blindness by the messengers within Lot’s house, who wore themselves out trying to find the DOOR to Lot’s house.
John 10:9 (Jesus said) “I am the door; through me, if anyone enter he shall be saved and shall go in and come out and pasture shall find”.
How is Jesus a “door”? Jesus spoke in what he called parables, which is a type of what I call indirect speech, which is the language the Spirit speaks into this realm; ie, metaphor or symbolism. This “door” is self control. Self control is the way into the ”pasture”. The pasture is the “food of life” wherein is the “tree of life”. The remnant enters by the door while those OUTSIDE, in their blindness, busy themselves and wear themselves out, trying to climb over the walls, for they refuse to go through the “door” of self control.
John 10:1 “Verily, verily I say unto you, he that enters not through the door…..but goes up from another place, that man is a thief and a robber”.
When you live in self control you have authority/right/licence to eat of the tree of life and “live forever”. When you live in self control you are “washing your robes”; ie, engaged in internal purification (jihad) – making yourself internally white. When you live in self control you are “entering the city by the gates”. The city is the “heavenly mind” or the mind that sees the big picture. Those OUTSIDE can’t even see their own hands in front of their faces in the fog they live in.
To eat of the tree of life and live forever is immortality. Yes, we still physically die, but because of the life we have lived in self control – which is living “in Christ”- even though we are dead, we yet speaketh, for our works and words follow after us, and are used by the remnant generations following.
When we live in self control we are ALIGNING OURSELVES WITH THE POWER – living in accordance with natural law. Living in self control is living in the LIGHT. They who are OUTSIDE are in darkness. Their darkness is like a barrier, a concrete fence, a great gulf, which encloses them in self segregation, which they think is freedom, but is actually bondage/slavery.
The darkness of those OUTSIDE is shown in their reaction to truth (Light) when it is presented to them. They can’t stand it, for it actually causes them physical pain, as they cry out with epithet’s and accusations against those speaking truth. Truth is lie to them. In their blinded state everything is the opposite of what reality is. They accuse others of what they themselves are. They “project” their own inner corruption on others.
One of the main “tells” of OUTSIDE dwellers is their trust and advocation in all and various forms of outward government. They are great believers in the system and it’s coersive/forceful ways. Their never ending demands for rights and for the state’s enforcement thereof is an obvious tell of their OUTSIDENESS/blindness.
One of the main “jobs” of today’s remnant is to “go back to the old ways”. Jeremiah 6:16 “Thus says Yahweh. Stand you at the ways and see, and ask for the paths of age past times, where is the good way?, and walk therein, and you shall find rest to your souls”.
Living in self control is a type of returning to the ways and wisdom of the past. Ancient Israel was supposed to learn this lesson, but refused it and their refusal was carried to it’s ultimate conclusion by rejecting the One who personified the principle in His appearance.
Learning to live by self control is a process which also becomes manifested in the daily life through self sufficiency. As one progresses on the HIGH way of self control, he also becomes or begins to search out ways in which he may become more self sufficient and less reliant upon the system and it’s lies of never ending consumerism and “you must trust meism”. This is part of the “going back to the old paths by learning how the grandparents” lived. By doing so, you become a “chip off the old block”. You begin to learn how to “grow- your- own- and- make- your- own- or- make- do- without” . Thankfully, the internet is a great store of “granpa knowledge” which can be accessed at the click of a mouse.
Once you become occupied with “living”, you become less concerned with what the babelers on the OUTSIDE are doing and saying. You can’t waste time on the boobustubus and what the lying matriarchy is doing/saying here and overseas, because you’ve got to find a formula for making your own cleaning/ dish/clothes detergent, how to raise chickens, rabbits, goats, how to garden on a postage stamp, where to find someone you can barter/trade labor for goods with, how to set bones and what plants or weeds have medicinal benefits, and meeting others of like minds in your neighborhood and across the country , all the while without preaching to the OUTSIDERS trying to convince blind people to see. To hell with them. Even if they are “fellow” whites.
Trying to convince OUTSIDERS is casting pearls before swine and giving that which is holy unto dogs. If it’s in the plan of the One who controls all things, some of them may come to self control also, but only after or during great tribulation, when they will have to come over to us, the ones “greatly hated”, in order to find out what is really true. The One is not going to wave a magic wand and heal their blindness, without their first being humbled by acknowledging our being of the truth first….
Rev.3:9-10 “Lo! I give them of the synagogue of satan, who are affirming themselves to be jews and are not -but say what is false – lo!, I will cause them that they shall have come and shall bow down before your feet and shall get to know that I loved you. Because you did keep my word of endurance (the WORD of self control), I also will keep you out of the hour of trial, which is about to come upon the whole habitable world, to try them that dwell upon the earth.”